By
David A. Heitmiller (Talk
at Interfaith Community Church May 22, 2005)
Many
of us have poor vision and need the help of eyeglasses or
contact lenses to see clearly. I’ve worn glasses since
I was seven years old for example. I put on my glasses first
thing in the morning and don’t take them off until my
head hits the pillow. Without them I can’t read and
my surroundings are a blur. My mother had corneal ulcers in
the 1950s that left scar tissue on her left eye that has caused
her to see through a fog in that eye ever since. Now at 84
years old she has cataracts. This means she now sees through
a fog in both eyes! Fortunately, modern technology has advanced
so that she can have cataract removal surgery and once again
see clearly at least through her right eye. She’ll have
that operation in June.
But how
might we improve how we see through our Third Eye…our
Mind’s Eye?
This
is a question that I have been working with since 1991 when
Jacque and I began our simple living journey. We started following
the Your Money or Your Life (YMOYL)program that year
and one of the early steps asked us to track our spending
in fine detail for a few months. To actually keep track of
every cent that came into and went out of our lives! And then
at the end of the month to do a tabulation to actually SEE
where our money was coming from and where it was going –
in detail.
At
first I didn’t want to do it. It was bother and besides,
I might not actually LIKE what I saw. The TRUTH might hurt.
Maybe I was frittering away money on beer and candy or spending
too much on clothes or bicycles. Did I really want to clearly
SEE where my money was going? Despite these doubts, we decided
to give it a try anyway. I bought Quicken and set
up categories and we began to save receipts and carry around
little notebooks to write down cash expenditures.
The
next Your Money or Your Life step asked us to look
at the results of our tracking effort and then ask ourselves
whether those expenditures were WORTH IT compared to the time
we spent working to get the money to buy them. And more importantly,
to SEE if our expenditures were in alignment with our core
values and life purpose. Whew! Now this was getting tough!
What in the heck were our core values and life purpose anyway?
At the time we had no spiritual grounding to look to for guidance,
so we began a slow process of reflection about what our values
were and what we really wanted our lives to be about.
Month
after month we asked ourselves these questions and we began
to SEE that much of our spending was, indeed, out of alignment
with what we began to recognize as our values and purpose.
For
example, we had always thought one of our values was preserving
the environment but as we examined our spending behavior that
value wasn’t reflected. We drove a luxury car and a
SUV and we paid little attention who made or what was in the
products we consumed. We wrote a few checks to environmental
organizations but never actually did any hands-on work to
support this value.
We began to modify our spending behavior and as result spent
less and simplified our lives in the process. By tracking
our expenses, we began to SEE clearly and as we gradually
brought our behavior into alignment with our newly clarified
values, we also felt better. The internal tension of our spending
being misaligned with our values dissipated. We still track
our spending every month. Because the process has become so
ingrained over the years, we don’t formally ask ourselves
the questions anymore. A look at our monthly tabulation of
expenditures through our Mind’s Eye reminds us when
we fall out of synch.
This
same method can help us SEE when it comes to time. How are
we spending our time? Let’s say for example we decide
one of our important values is centered on our children and
family. Are we in alignment with this value if we veg out
in front of the TV or computer for hours every night? Or if
one of our values is social equity, do the companies we invest
in and support with our purchases reflect that value? Do we
ever volunteer our time to help those less fortunate?
Try
actually keeping track of your time for a few weeks. You’ll
probably be surprised where your time actually goes. The truth
may hurt but once we SEE where our time goes we can make changes
little by little. Little by little we can begin to live more
in the present moment and with the serenity that we are doing
what we are meant to do in each moment.
Another
area where we might NOT want to see clearly is how our current
lifestyles and consumption patterns affect our natural environment,
poor people around the world or future generations. When we
started down the simplicity path we were only concerned with
our personal situation. For me that particularly focused on
a way to get out of a distasteful and meaningless job. But
as we progressed, we began to SEE bigger implications. Not
only was our old high-spending, high-consuming lifestyle bad
for our budget and personal health it was bad for the planet
and our grandchildren. Native Americans had the vision to
SEE into the future seven generations and tried to live in
harmony with nature and preserve the earth’s resources.
We can barely see beyond our next paycheck.
In
1998 we came across a concept called the Ecological Footprint.
It’s a way for individuals and nations to see how much
of the earth’s resources we use based on our lifestyle.
We learned that Americans in particular are gobbling up the
resources of the planet at an unsustainable rate. Our over-consumption
of resources is killing the planet and, as a society, we are
“stealing” from those yet to be born and those
suffering around the world. Practicing and promoting simple
living is a way that we can make a difference. Every day,
day in and day out, how we spend (or don’t spend) our
money is our Vote on how we want the world to be.
Speaking
of voting on how we want the world to be, Bill Bennett and
I are representing this church at an interfaith group here
in the Seattle area that began earlier this year as a vision
of our friend Rabbi Ted Falcon. It’s called Voting
with Your Dollars. You’ll be hearing more about
this initiative in the months to come but the main idea is
to provide information to faith communities about products
and services and businesses and organizations in the area
that support our common values.
All
this leads me to talk for a minute about one more thing we
really don’t want to see… our own mortality. Twenty-two
years ago last Saturday, my first wife Carole died suddenly
at age 36. For years I searched for meaning in her too-short
life and untimely death. One of the things I recognized was
that I wasn’t going to live forever either and that
maybe I should get about doing something meaningful with my
life…or like Thoreau, not be one of those who live a
life of quiet desperation.
This
was brought home more clearly in one of the early chapters
of YMOYL where they offered an average life expectancy chart
showing how long we might expect to live given our current
age. They even broke it down into HOURS! When I started the
YMOYL program in 1991 I was 45 and my life expectancy was
33 years or 289,298 hours. Now I’m 59 and my life expectancy
is about 21 years or about 180,000 hours. Seeing this chart
brought home to me the reality of our limited time here on
earth. What was I doing with my precious time? My life could
be over tomorrow. Am I spending my time and money in a way
that really matters? I’ve tried to make the most of
whatever time I have left ever since.
For
those of you who might want to know more detail about how
we came to SEE more clearly, I invite you take a look at the
book Jacque and I wrote titled Getting a Life. It
also includes the stories of folks in different life situations
who used the YMOYL program to simplify their life and transform
their relationship with money. The bad news is that our book
went out of print last December. But the good news is that
we bought the remainders and can offer signed copies to you
today! Jacque will have copies available downstairs after
services. I’ll also put in a plug here for my website
www.gettingalife.org
which offers information, articles, stories and news about
simple and sustainable living.
Living a life based on our deepest spiritual values is, as
Jamal likes to say, simple but not easy. It sometimes involves
taking an unpopular stand and going against the grain but
it’s worth it. Realigning my life with my values has
been like a person with poor vision putting on glasses for
the first time…or like I’ve heard it is when people
have cataracts removed. I can see clearly now. I still don’t
always like what I see but at least now, with clear vision
through all three eyes, I can act to change, whether it’s
my personal behavior, working for social equity or some other
cause that I believe in.
I’d
like to close with a poem that I came across last year by
Linda Ellis that I think speaks to what I’ve been trying
to say today. It’s titled “How to Live Your Dash.”
(Note:
Because of copyright I cannot reprint the poem here but I
encourage you to look for it on the Web. I found it recently
at: http://www.webedelic.com/church/dasht.htm
)
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